You'll Miss Me When I'm Gone...or Not

How many times have you heard someone say to an ex that they'll never do better? Hell, I've told plenty of my girlfriends over the years that their jerk-face ex will never do better, and I truly meant it.

But the truth of the matter is that, no matter how much we want to believe that some sort of monstrous remorse will cast a gloomy shadow over the future love life of an ex, it will most likely never happen. Those wankers will blithely move on to the next person, and the next...

They didn't realize your worth when they had you, and they won't be any smarter down the road. When someone values you, they'll treat you as a priority and their actions will demonstrate such. If someone genuinely sees how unique and special you are, they won't easily let you walk away.

Oh, I'll keep telling my friends that their ex is a fool and that he'll never find another woman as wonderful as she is...and I'll mean it. On the same hand, however, I'll also know that he won't miss my friend, at least not in any way beyond the superficial.

We can say to an ex that they'll never do better (and they probably won't). But they aren't looking for better, they're just looking for ease and convenience. Some people can't handle the intimacy, the realness, the give and take of a mature relationship. Sure, longterm relationships require work, but the return on your investment is immeasurable.

Your shallow ex will most likely never grieve the loss of you, and that is a disappointing reality. But somewhere out there is a person sick to death of the dime-a-dozen, so when they find the rich and rare inside of you, they will treasure it. 

Jennifer Lee1 Comment